The Motivation to Forgive..

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We often face people in our lives who have wronged us in some way and we feel its impossible for us to forgive them… there are a billion times when we have wronged someone, by words or action, and we feel the guilt and pressure on our souls so much that we are ashamed to ask forgiveness from Allah  (S.W.T) Regarding this, I came across something very exceptional to read, so sharing it here


We sin openly and secretly, inwardly and outwardly, major and minor, to the Creator and the creation.  And whilst it is unavoidable to do at least some sins, it is important that we seek forgiveness from Allah daily. In fact, there are at least 20 duas of forgiveness a Muslim can make every day. No one can seek forgiveness more than the blessed Messenger of Allah ﷺ despite all of his sins being forgiven, so how about us? We steal, lie, cheat, scorn and if we do not do this with others, we certainly do this with Allah.

Despite all of this, Allah is willing to forgive us. He loves to forgive and he would have replaced us if we were sinless with people who sin and then repent to him. 

If someone was to encroach upon our rights, how would we react? If we don’t forgive the person, we will at least seek ‘justice’. And the problem with seeking ‘justice’ is that it can be revenge in another name.

Justice is limited in how much we can attain and it is quantifiable. 

“And those who, when an oppressive wrong is done to them, take revenge. The recompense for an evil is an evil like thereof.” {Surah Ash-Shuraa 42: Verses 39-40}

And what we seek cannot be compensated except through forgiveness. It will remove the hurt and the scar will be lifted. 

And so we choose something which is temporary that results in regret, for something permanent that we will always be pleased with even though its initial stages may feel bitter. 

And whilst ‘justice’ is measurable, the reward is not. There is no mention of gardens or rivers, but the reward is with Allah. 

but whoever forgives and makes reconciliation, his reward is with Allah.” {Surah Ash-Shuraa 42: Verse 40}

Forgiveness is not easy and that is why the reward is so high. Someone may say: ‘I will forgive everyone except for such and such a person because you don’t know what s/he’s done to me’.

Remember what we have done against Allah and yet He forgives us for nothing in return. Remember how Abu Bakr forgave a companion for spreading rumours of adultery about his daughter, the wife of the Prophet ﷺ and our mother, Aisha. 

Why? 

Because he understood that the reward of forgiving him is far greater than any justice he would be able to gain in this life or on the Day of Judgement. 

And this is a greater type of sabr when a calamity befalls someone because in the former you have a choice. The ones we get most angry with are those whom we are closest to and because we see them day in and day out, it is more difficult to forgive them. 

In fact, the test of good character is not to show it to people you like or don’t know, but people you don’t like. 

“Be in need of whoever you wish, and you will be his prisoner; be sufficient from whoever you wish, and you will be his adversary; be kind to whoever you wish, and you will be his authority”– Ibn Taymiyyah (ra)


We may feel we cannot trust anyone. It doesn’t matter how deep one’s love is for their spouse, parents, children, siblings and friends – there will always be some element of disappointment.  And although we should not think like this, in some situations, it cannot be helped. It is easier to please Allah than to please the people. 

Ibn Al Qayyim(ra) said: “The heart of who you are trying to earn acceptance, is in the hands of whom you disobey.” This is why we must always do things for Allah alone and everything else should be secondary. This way, if you are disappointed by the people, you didn’t do it for them anyway. And any harm they cause us will be worth it because the reward will be higher. 

From the 8 gates of Jannah is the gate called BAABUL KADHEMEAN AL- GAIDH – this gate is reserved for those who suppress their anger and pardon others.


Allah is Al-Ghafur, At-Tawwab, but mankind is plagued by pride and arrogance. So despite any sin we may do, Allah is willing to forgive us if we apply the conditions. As for man, our hearts are hard and not willing to forget let alone forgive.  We are reminded constantly of past transgressions in a heated argument even when we were ‘forgiven’ and we curtail our kindness because of that hurt that we once felt.

And yet when Allah forgives, it is almost as though we had not done that sin and He bestows more mercy upon us so that we are not embarrassed to return to him. 

As one Mufassir (explainer of the Quran) wrote: Allah knows things about you that if your parents would know, they would disown you. That if your wife would know, she would divorce you. If your slave were to know, he would run away from you. If your neighbor would know, they would move away from you. But despite all of this, Allah is Merciful.

Let us facilitate jannah for each other, not jahanam. Paradise is very vast and it has room for us all. And it doesn’t matter how much we may despise one another, kafir or Muslim, we should never wish jahanam for anyone if we truly know its reality. 

So a word said to our brother or sister even though it takes a few seconds, the consequences are years in the hellfire or eternity in Paradise. Is it not enough for us to worry about our good deeds being accepted, than for us to increase in sin and worry about others holding grudges?

“Verily, I constantly renew my Islam until this very day, as up to now, I do not consider myself to have ever been a good Muslim.”- Ibn Taymiyyah(ra)

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