Month: May 2017

The Three Letters of Downfall

What defines “the chaos of life”? You being so busy that you’re unable to take out time to sit with family? Your stubbornness when a junior asks you for a favour ? Your frustrations when little things you think you can manage gets so haphazard? Eventually, it leads all to an ultimate end of a good brought up or should I say the grooming of your parents when you start boasting your ego. The three letter word that leads us all to downfall, little do we understand don’t we?

Man, no doubt has to some extent a superiority over women. They earn and face the excruciating and disgusting world outside. Running for jobs, dealing with gruesome people and above all trying to save money in a world of today- where it seems the money gets down the drain so quickly no matter how you save. They are tough and brought up by the stereotype, ‘men don’t cry’.  That’s exactly where the EGO steps in. 

Women look after household and some even work and do chores too. And by chores I could go on in a list of never ending work. Make dinner of their husband’s choice, wash clothes, clean the house, do the dishes, solve inlaws issues,  then they have the cranky dependant babies to look after.. And still remain tip top for their husbands in the eve. Some are even working women who do double jobs of balancing the outside and inside world together. If she demands some time to rest is it necessary she gets taunted in a way she never want to do anything for her sake? 

Why does ego gets misunderstood as “confidence” “power to rule” and “intelligent dealings”. Is it important we crush the one beneath us so harshly, forget about hurting the other person won’t even want to talk to you. Ever realized why you were made an authority? Was it to rule over and gain power by insulting? Doesn’t it lead to more frustrations in a society- eventually a working space gets disintegrated and the blame games start. The vicious cycle begins where two personalities full of pride fail to understand their ruining the world in small or a larger scale on whole. 

I know frustrations are everywhere, there are little who know how to deal with them perfectly and wisely. I love such people and always try to learn from such kinds who put others first and not their wishes ahead of themselves. The teachings of our Prophet (S.A.W. W) show that he practised his life that revolves around the famous quote, ” forgive and let go” trust me, its so not easy in this world we live now. Now is the life with which even the wolf has asked forgiveness. People are after the happiness you share, the pride you show when your child achieves higher marks in class, the confidence you feel when you show you’re independent. They would never stop, why? Because you’re hurting them. Affecting their “look busy, do nothing” lives and teasing their ego. Trust me, you shouldn’t stop, its their sickening thoughts with which they’re brought up. Ego. They think its their win-win, but it’s actually yours if you ponder and let them go- remember karma? It lies there hiding and waiting for the right moment to come. And it will, inshaaAllah. 

Is He really hidden?

Intuitions. How can one define them? Gut instincts.. Sixth sense.. True feelings. People gave synonyms to make sense, yet it needs much experience to expert them. What matters the most is the way we approach these intuitions and how we gain trust in them.

At times, we are intrigued by the fame of celebrities.. The posh lifestyle of a modern, elite family… attracted to anyone’s fascinating accent… Cheered up by humor of someone who loves to make jokes on anyone, anytime. Still, there lies a deep, deep wisdom in the voice that always shouts within us, ‘this isn’t right.. You’re not meant for this’ to not crossing lines and staying decently away.. But we learn by experiences don’t we? 

Sometimes, some of us get overwhelmed by feelings of “trust” in someone so quickly, yet when they slam the world in front of us by their behavior we eventually learn this quick “trust” was a danger sign to not go beyond frankness and friendliness. Another experience?

It’s true you shouldn’t expect anything from anyone, and accept the fact that no one would ever realize what you’re going through.. What you’ve been through.. And what they are making you go through. I’ve been brought up by stories of my Prophet (S.A.W.W)  to show kindness to those who do harm to you, to respect your elders no matter how rude one becomes, always help those in need with your intentions of expecting a reward only from your Lord. 

Try to look beyond those mere co incidences that happen in everyday life. You woke up early, got ready and left for your job but during the way got stuck in a huge traffic jam which made u reach on time somehow.. Coincidence? 

Or maybe you despised a place to work but gave interview anyway, later the company you dreamed to work in got defamed by faults and frauds and you realize the place you work is best for you.. Another coincidence?

Sometimes even little things like a dress color you were unsure to wear actually was the theme of the party and you didn’t know … While ordering something you gave order for a great good amount and later got uninvited guests … You ‘accidently’ took a wrong turn and showed up at a market you werent planning to buy groceries-but hey! There’s a summer sale!! Surprised?

These things in life aren’t coincidences, its something that has been decreed for you before the establishment of the universe. Something so peculiar about it is the fact you can’t deny but take a sigh of relief these incidents happened. Think for a while was it you who planned it or was Allah the planner? Was it you to take care of the billion things out of your sight and wisdom or is it Allah who manages that which you see not? 

Why is it so hard these days to merely believe the fact Allah created us and He has the knowledge so vast- from a single bacteria that got destroyed in our body to the intention of another person talking to you on phone miles and miles away. Who is the Creator and Planner now? So when we think of ourselves and the problems we face in daily life,just have blind trust in Allah.

….. He would caress you the way a mother cares for the child..making you learn hand in hand .. Staying quiet like a teacher when tests are taken.. Looking over you with love and protection  when you’re asleep.. And providing provision to you when YOU think you don’t deserve/ can’t afford/ won’t like to have.. Making you go through trails of agony so you become sober and realize His existence. 

Trust me He isn’t hidden. Trust me, its not your intuition, but guidance from Allah. Trust me, its a blessing when He gives you this opportunity to trust Him and He will make this world and hereafter the best place to be .. And the key?  all you have to do is a thank you. 

Often, dark rooms have switches hidden which you have to seek so you lit it up.. Seek your Lord, He would seek you.