Category: Events attended..

To, The Sad Heart..

Regrets and sadness often fills heart with many genuine or made up reasons in our lives-for this we tend to go waaayss in depression and guilt, confining and isolating ourselves from the world.. Is that the treatment ? The ultimate solution? Nope.
Following is something I read a while ago and it really touched my heart. A brief guide for sad dummies 🙂 cheer up!

The word (الحزن) “sadness” does not appear in the Qur’aan except in the form of forbidding it

(ولا تهنو ولاتحزنوا)

or in the form of negating it

(فلاخوف عليهم ولا هم يحزنون).

And the reason for this is because there is no benefit for having sadness in the heart. The most beloved thing to Shaitan is to make the believing slave sad by taking him off track.

The Prophet (صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم) sought refuge in Allaah (سبحانه وتعالى) from sadness

(اللهم إني أعوذ بك من الهم والحزن)

Ibnul Qayyim رحمه الله said: “Sadness weakens the heart and diminishes determination and wanting to go forward. And there is nothing more beloved to the Shaitan than the sadness of a believer.”

For this reason, be happy, optimistic and think good about Allaah (سبحانه وتعالى). Have trust in what Allaah (سبحانه وتعالى) is able to do and depend on Him. You will find happiness and pleasure in all situations.

Ibnul Qayyim رحمه الله said: “Don’t ruin your happiness with worry, and don’t ruin your mind with pessimism. Don’t ruin your success with deception and don’t ruin the optimism of others by destroying it. Don’t ruin your day by looking back at yesterday.

If you think about your situation, you will find that Allaah (سبحانه وتعالى) has given you things without asking, so have trust in Allaah  (سبحانه وتعالى) that He doesn’t prevent anything you want except there is goodness for you.

You could be sleeping and the doors of the heavens are being opened with dua’as being made on your behalf, SubhanAllaah: perhaps from someone poor whom you helped, or someone sad whom you brought joy, or someone passing by and you smiled at him, or someone in distress and you removed it.. so don’t ever underestimate any good deeds.”

One of the righteous predecessors said:

“I make dua’a to Allaah (سبحانه وتعالى) for something I want, and if He gives it to me then I’m happy once and if He doesn’t give it to me then I’m happy ten times because the first was my choice and the second was Allaah’s choice.”

As Sa’ady (رحمه الله) on him said: “Life is short so don’t shorten it with worries, grief, and sadness.”

So be the owner of a heart that breathes happiness and satisfaction.

May Allaah (سبحانه وتعالى) make your times happy and may Allaah (سبحانه وتعالى) forgive us all.  آمِيْن ثُمَّ آمِيْن.


So, what did you learn?

Sometime back, I attended a lecture on “How to cope up with difficulties and trials- in a guided way”… And it actually changed the way we look at life with such fragile concepts.

The lecturer started by saying there are two kinds of difficulties people face:

  1. Man-made: that which people create for themselves and even for others around them.
  2. Those trials inflicted by Allah SWT.

–> To overcome both difficulties one should believe in Allah’s SWT will. That’s the first “hard fact”, as people tend to pity themselves and cry their heart out on the trials when they face it. The blame game begins. The thoughts that, “If only this would not have happened.. If only I hadn’t done this or that” crosses your mind. Makes you more vulnerable to be mentally as well as physically ill. But as soon as you realize it’s from Allah SWT and you believe He is there to make you cross every hurdle that come over you and you believe that He is testing you to upgrade your rank in Jannah-you get relaxed miraculously!

–> The second very common thought that arises in one’s mind is “Why me??” Here we need to learn from the Seerah of our Prophets. Ayub (A.S), afflicted with the worst kind of disease that necrosed his full body and the only thing remaining in proper condition was his heart and his tongue with which he recited,

“And Ayub, when he cried to his Lord, (saying): Harm has afflicted me, and Thou art the most Merciful of the merciful”

-Surah Al-Anbiya, Ayaah 83-84.

And the time when Yunus A.S got trapped inside the tummy of the whale. Went into the darkest of the dark- because a whale sets itself into the deepest bottom of an ocean and the darkness gets darker considering the stomach of the whale. Even then, Yunus A.S didn’t play the blame game and recited,

“… he cried through the depths of darkness (saying): “There is no God but You, Glorified be You! Truly, I have been of the wrongdoers.”(Surah Al Anbiya, Ayaah 87)

Sulemaan A.S, the most powerful of all the human beings ever existed on this earth. Given the powers to control Jinn, listen to all animals, had control over clouds and wind- this power became a mere test for him. Yet he was prepared to thank Allah SWT,

“…. he (Sulayman) cried out: “This is by the grace of my Lord so that He may test me whether I give thanks for (His Bounty) or act with ingratitude. Whoever is grateful is so to his own good; and whoever is ungrateful, let him know that my Lord is Immensely Resourceful, Most Bountiful.” (Surah an-Naml, Ayaah 40)

…and ofcourse, how may I not discuss my idol, the brave and the most tolerant  Muhammad SAWW. Who was tortured 24/7 by the non-believers, stoned till his shoes filled with blood, harmed during Sajdah, threw upon a can of trash, stricken with immense hunger, mocked upon and taunted- yet, he stood in night hours to ask forgiveness from Allah SWT and praise Him and thank Him for all the blessings.

So now.. Pay attention. Is your trial more hard than Ayub (A.S)? More dark than Yunus A.S ? Are you more powerful human than Sulemaan A.S Are you being tortured 24/7?

Even to the reply of “Why Me?” Allah SWT replies,

“Do the people think that they will be left to say, “We believe” and they will not be tried?. But We have certainly tried those before them, and Allah will surely make evident those who are truthful, and He will surely make evident the liars”.

Surah Ankabut, Ayaah 2-3.

This is the second hard fact. Allah SWT tests us to separate good and bad between us. More the sacrifices you make, you are equally upgraded in Jannah, which is the true and eternal success. But ofcourse you have to pass through a military training to enter the “elite” members of Jannah. You have to be tested on what goes against your will.. While those who whine and self pity get much lesser rewards.

–> Another concept people have is that they inquire, “If Allah is merciful, then where is He right now?” The minute we get hurt by a calamity (major/minor) we tend to consider negative aspects of it. Here, the positive aspect is hidden. Allah SWT shows us His mercy by:

* Forgiving our sins. A gist of Hadeeth follows that Allah SWT removes the sins of a person afflicted with a disease/ worry such like the leaves that fall off a tree.

* You will get compensated thereafter for every single affliction, your tasks in life will become easier than before and you will realize this difference soon after.

* Allah SWT choses His servants and never afflict burden greater than what His servant could tolerate. You realize this when you are met with people around you in similar situations but with many other tests going on in their lives.

*As Allah SWT stated, with every difficulty there is ease, clearly mentioned and and it is always applied practically by Him.

–> Now come the essence of the lecture. The coping skills. What to do as soon as a trial begins.. Whether its a person who hurt you, whether you lost a job or lost a dear one , or maybe you got hurt by your children behavior or you are diagnosed with an illness..

  1. Believe: this is from Allah SWT, He wrote my fate and He is the best of Planners. Never curse your fate. Never say the word “IF”.
  2. Recite “Inna lillahe wa inna ilaihi raje’oon”: Yes! Its not just a dua to be recited in time of someone’s death. Its a declaration that you believe in returning back to your Lord.
  3. Pray: Always. Always. Always pray! The weapon of the believer!! Every dua will get compensated, either in this world or hereafter. Just ask Allah, for He loves when you ask even for little things.
  4. Recite Quran: DAILY. Like every product comes with a manual, for us our manual is the Quran. Read the Arabic+ translation. Double the reward! You will recieve solutions for your every day to day problems. It talks to you when you recite it. That’s why its called “An-Nuur” The Light.
  5. Never degrade the one in trials: Don’t whine on their faces, calling them “Poor Souls/ haaye bechari!” Instead, tell them the reward they will recieve by Allah’s will and ask them to pray for you as they are MORE closer at that time to Allah SWT than you are !!
  6. Learn from the spider: Its home get destroyed, yet it spindles a new much stronger and beautiful home again. Keep trying and failing then trying again.
  7. Your health, wealth and children are the greatest of trials you face. A believer is always in win-win situation.
  8. Never let the past pile up in your memories. This is Shaitaan who reminds you of your some 10 year old grudge against someone or the worst to create doubts between husband- wife. For this, do this exercise: Every night Forgive and Forget. Save yourself from mental and physical torture.
  9. Always look those under you. Learn from them. And do sabr and shukar for that’s what Allah loves for His slave.
  10. Accept your problems and believe that Allah SWT knows the best. Ask Him to steer you to what He considers is best for you.

Alhamdulilahe A’ala kulle haal!

(Praise be to Allah upon every condition!)

10 Lessons from Hajj

19 SEP 2015

A Webinar, I attended for the first time in my life today, provoked me to spread the words and ideas of what Mohammed Faris thought about when he went for Hajj. He pondered upon the facts derived from events of Hajj …so, ponder with me as you read below… 🙂

Lesson 1:      The Power of Intentions.

* The word “Hajj” means a “journey with a purpose”. A person who goes to Hajj declares his intention loudly “Labbaik Allah humma labbaik!…” ( “I’m here, My Lord, I’m here..”). If we come to think about it, Hajj also symbolizes our life. The intentions that we make in the journey of our life; be it as big as to achieve a degree or be it as little to turn on the T.V and waste time there- every intention has a purpose.

*Allah declared the purpose of life to worship none other than Him, “.. I haven’t created mankind & Jinn except that they worship me..”

*Concept behind making of intentions is that we just make it for our Deen rituals- hoever, these intentions are to be implied upon our time spent in the day’s 24hrs… why do you go to work? why do you spent time on Facebook?

*Make your intentions clear as your intentions before Hajj are, in order to be a productive, progressing muslim.

Lesson: 2     Sanctity of Ihram.

* We are so careful while wearing Ihram, “make sure not to put on any perfume… cut hair/nail.. use a perfumed soap…” and ofcourse we know the consequences if we break the rules of Hajj, right? Similarly, the rules of Deen are to be applied in our routine practice.

*The two cloth of Ihram signifies that we are supposed to be presented to the Lord of the worlds very simply and decently, not forgetting to the white color and cloth also shows unison in the Muslim ummah. Rather, we love to dress up and make-up lavishly in the world when we have to be buried in just two cloth?

* By wearing Ihram, one also keeps the end in mind. It literally dawns upon oneself that he lives in a deception of this world and that he may drop dead anytime.

Lesson: 3   The Ka’aba: Our Permanent Address.

*Allah chose to say, “Baet(house)” to the Ka’aba in the Holy Qur’an. It is the first house put to mankind. A symbol of Tawheed (Oneness of Allah), a symbol of unity of Muslim Ummah, an icon of values and principles.. and the same values we need to apply as facing ka’aba five times a day makes us realize this, the day to day action should be applied to the concept behind which ka’aba was built upon.

Lesson: 4   The Sa’ee- A Struggle for Miracle

*Remember the story of Haajra (A.S)? when she ran from one mountain Safa to another mountain Marwa for quenching thirst of her son? ran for 7 times in the horrid heat- this is what made Allah sprout 12 beautiful and present day fountains of ZamZam water. What does this indicate? Do we get our wishlist fulfilled or rather our goals in life completed just by sitting ther and doing nothing or do we have to do hardwork? of course! great things happen with struggle.

*When it comes to Deen, the consistent hardwork persuades us to work for Deen and makes our focus just to set an example of ourselves to follow as we struggle for the Deen adn implement in our lives.

*Ponder on what are you struggling for? Why going school? Why working 9-5 or maybe even extra hours? think about goals and set Deen as your priority.

Lesson: 5     Minaa- The Womb of Humanity

*Since, Hajj is considered an event after which the Muslims are set free of their sins as new born babies are, the time before they are actually born is the womb. In Hajj, Mina is the womb where crowds of people gather from all around the globe- just for one purpose- to serve fellow human, serve the Ummah for the sake of Allah!

*Mina is where one learns to have unity, faith and generosity within oneself. The whole concept of “WE” as one solid Ummah then enhances and we then start enjoying being in company of those who serve, pray, deal nicely and kindly with others andd of course start practicing the skills there and then!

Lesson: 6   Arafaat- Day of Remembrance

*A day when we confess that the way we have been living; neglecting and taking for granted the blessings we were provided by Him. It feela like the Day of Judgement wheb every soul is after his own clearance, asking forgiveness and mercy from the most Beneficient.

*Arafaat makes us realise the promise every soul has done before being transferred to human body, and that was promised to be fulfilled.

*It makes us ask ourselves, “where are you headed?” “Are you being true servant of Allah?” And thus reflect on the purpose of our life. Reassessing ourselves without which we would be lost.

Lesson: 7   Muzdalifah- Sky is the limit!

*We are suppose to sleep under the beautiful black starry sky, with no tents or camps above us. The most beautiful feeling ever!

*After experiencing Arafah, deciding on your goal and focusing to become determined, your Lord tells you that the sky is your limit. You can be highly progressive as a Muslim if you tend to abide by the rules of Quran and Sunnah.

*Another chance to ponder upon your responsibilities in life and how you can fulfill them.

Lesson: 8 Jamaraat- Pelting the evil within

*Revising the incident once more here, remember what the Shaitaan told to Ibraheem (A.S)? He advised him to stop what he is doing and it can be a dream.. He did this at three places.

*After attending Jamarat ourselves, we tend to feel that this is the same evil withib us that we have to stop from spreading-an evil that may enrage us to fire of Hell eventually. The greatest jihaad is against our own soul, and this is true as when we stop being productive we become like zombies that either lie down watching t.v all day, or stalk facebook or gossip with friends.

*Think of killing your nafs (soul) when you are stoning the Shaitaan at that time. Apply this in your life forever.

Lesson: 9 Sacrifice

*People think killing animals is horrendous, however its a ritual that signifies some important aspects in mankind:

1)By killing these animals Allah has cleared the fact that we are superior to the animals, we can have them and slaughter them at our own will.

2)After the slaughtering is done, there is a big responsibilty upon us to carefully and accurately divide the amount that is shared with our family and friends and to the poor. Thus, creatibg a concept of sharing and not wasting or abusing them.

3)One of the most important lesson sacrifice teaches us is the mere thought of what are we ready to sacrifice for? Our ego, pride, money and as little as our words that may hurt anyone? Would we sacrifice our sleep to wakeup in the Fajr prayers? Our time to spend in way of doing dhikr? Our comfort to serve humanity?

Lesson: 10 The Farewell Tawaaf- ready to face the world!!

*Farewells are usually sad. This last ritual of Hajj is also a farwell, as well as a promise that whatever lessons we learned during our journey of Hajj we will simulate the same to other people and teach them by becoming an example of how a believer should be.

*As it goes, this journey of Hajj takes you back in time of Ibraheem (A.S) and his practices and Muhammad (S.A.W.W) and his last sermon preachings.

*Last farewell also reminds us there is always an end to somethibg that started. We will die, get resurrected on Day of Judgement and then enter Jannah to abide therein InshaaAllah!

Concluding the Webinar, the gist of what seemed to me, we have to implement these teachings and facts in our life first, become a good practicing muslim and so carry on with life.

Assalam o alaikum!